I've always been
told that if I don't have a goal or a purpose set, then I surely won't
accomplish it. That's the best way to let life pass me by. In this week's essay, Ken Pierce sets our feet on a course of discovering the secrets of living a purposeful life. This is just a taste of what Ken gives us in his newsletter and website. Take a nibble.
"Find out who you are and do it on purpose." ~ Dolly Parton
What makes my
work perhaps unique is that I use only the hard sciences as my primary
reference as I work with people. By that I mean I use chemistry,
physics, biology, cosmology, astronomy, geology, as my reference point
for my work. These hard
sciences study nature and uncover everyday some new aspect of nature,
some law of nature. As we are part of nature, we must uphold those same
laws.
So I look for the application for those natural laws, applying laws to human nature. Today I want to talk to you about: "A Dozen Secrets For A Purposeful Life." I want to start
by being very grounded. I want you to look around the room you're in.
I'll look around the room I'm in......I see a chair, a wall, a window -
objects in my room. I'm in there, too, of course. Look around your
room. Notice the objects in your room. Notice each object has a purpose
in being there, a function in being there - even the dirt on my floor,
here, has a function. I pay a lady to
come in and clean it every week. I pay her money to do that, and she
supports herself that way. So the dirt on the floor in my office has
purpose. So, you and I are
part of this room; we have a purpose in being here. We have a purpose
in being on this earth right now. We have a purpose in the universe. Do you know your specific purpose? Can you put it in five to seven words? Because if you can, then it will explain to you your entire past, present and your future. To learn more about uncovering your purpose and bringing balance to your life and work, check this out. Would you like to have that level of awareness in your life? Because that is entirely possible. Are
you aware that we humans are the only animals that can think about our
purpose? Analyze our purpose? Put our purpose in words? And,
therefore, plan around our purpose?You're a human. I can show you how to do that. Would you like to have more gratitude for your life? Would you like to appreciate this day more, just because you get to live it?Regardless of the weather, regardless of the economy, regardless of the challenges you face. Would you like to appreciate this day just because you are alive? That's
possible, too. I can show you how to do that. Imagine what that would
do for your life. Imagine the impact it would have on all aspects of
your life.
Life's 4 Fundamental Questions
Do you know the questions that every human being must find an answer to? Here are the four questions:
Where do I come from?
Why am I here?
Who am I?
Where am I going?
These four
questions are the foundation of every organized philosophy, every
theology, every political party - and they're the foundation of the
human spirit. They are actually questions every person asks about
themselves. So, imagine if
you had answers to those questions that made sense to you. That
explained your past, your present and your future. That's possible. It
is. I can show you that.
Welcome the pain and pleasure
Do you welcome both the pain and the pleasure of your life? We all want
pleasure and want to avoid pain, but can we welcome both, can we see the
value of both? That's possible. That's a level of awareness. That's a
law of nature? Imagine if you
could honor both the pleasure and pain of your past. Honor the pleasure
and pain of your present; therefore, you can anticipate and appreciate
the pleasure and the pain of your future.
Imagine the possibilities.
Are you
interested in living an inspired, committed, high-energy life? A life
that society reveres....or our planet reveres. Take people like Nelson Mandela, Mother Theresa, Steven Lewis
- these people live, or lived, inspired committed lives. And society
reveres them for it. They operate at a different level of awareness, of
consciousness, and because they do, people call them inspired and they
have inspiring impacts around the world. That's possible for everybody, including you. Finally, do you know how engaging, purposeful activities can not only enhance your health, but extend your lifespan? Imagine, when we have purposeful activities to do everyday, it actually enhances our lives.
So the KEY POINTS TO REMEMBER are:
Everything in the universe has a specific purpose, from a grain of sand to you.
Everything, including you, is on purpose, but only humans can be conscious of their purpose.
When you are on purpose consciously, you have gratitude for your life as it is.
When you are on purpose consciously, you have certainty about life's four fundamental questions.
When you are purpose, you love both the pain and pleasure of your life.
Consciousness of purpose is displayed by living an inspiring, committed and high-energy life.
Purposeful people can often state their life purpose in 5-7 words,
which explains to them every event in their entire life journey.
There are specific questions which help you to uncover your purpose, when reviewed carefully and truthfully.
Each person's purpose is a manifestation of some form of love, and so contributes to our species' evolution.
Your purpose is a journey, and not a destination, and so will not be
achieved in your life time; it is a bigger task than that.
When you are consciously on your purpose, time and space collapse into a state of love for your life.
Purpose people tend to extend their life span with their purposeful activities.
These are the kind of ideas that are explored on our website. Please take the time to check them out today.
In This Issue... * Quote of the Week
* Article:Chronic
Complainers - A Blessing in Disguise!
Quote of the Week
"Life is 10% of what happens to me and 90% of how I
react to it."
-John Maxwell
CHRONIC COMPLAINERS - A Blessing in
Disguise!
"I'm so tired of the constant complaining...but
what can I do?"
Everyone complains! That's right 100% of people
complain in some way. Yes, both you and me do it too!
It is a natural thing to do! It is an example of one
of the many ways we judge or evaluate how we are doing in life according to our
value system. One of the biggest benefits to complaining is how it motivates us
to grow in new ways.
It is really an important human learning tool. For
example, have you noticed it is only the complaints of pain in our body that
drives us to take better care of our health. Humbling at times, isn't
it?
But what about chronic complainers? Most of us have
at least one if not more in our circle of family, friends and colleagues. These
are people who use complaining repetitively to deal with their world.
It is how they have learned to survive,...so far.
These are the individuals who seem to thrive on being the "Eyore" in our "Winnie
The Pooh" life story. We would rather they were more like "Tigger" but alas,
they can't seem to get there, their "elation" pill is lost
somewhere.
If they are bothering you a lot this usually means
you may not have noticed how you use this behavior to deal with your world. If
you are in doubt about your complaining skills or its frequency simply check
with your significant other or a close friend. And I suggest you be sitting down
when you ask.
Once you own this behavior yourself and see how it
serves you, you will find it much less annoying in others...realizing you use it
too.
But, what if you want to assist a chronic
complainers to move forward? Chronic complainer are really quite easy to deal
with once you understand what is going on underneath their perspective. Let's
have a look.
Three really important secrets to remember about
complaining:
1. Everyone is a complainer and perceived by someone
as a complainer at some point. This is because, complaining, like beauty, is in
the eye of the beholder.
So, while you may not view yourself as a complainer,
someone else, with a different set of values, which is everyone, will view you
as complaining when you perceive you are simply stating the facts.
For example, if you state what you perceive is the
"real situation" in some political event then there is someone else, with a
different set of values, who will perceive you at that second as complaining.
Expect it to occur throughout your life.
2. It is important to understand there is a "want or
desire" beneath every complaint. And there is a want or desire underneath the
other forms of complaining including: whining, sulking, crying, blaming,
criticizing or attacking. That's correct, under ever complaint, whatever its
form, is someone who "wants something" they don't know how to get it...so they
are complaining.
3. Take them for "A Walk in the Park" using
five questions and help them move from complaining to problem solving in
minutes. Watch this video to learn more. "A Walk in the Park" is metaphor
for an imaginary park with five benches each with a question which moves the
complainer forward from complaining to finding what they need.
"A Walk in the Park" Bench questions
are:
1. What do you want?
2. What are you doing to get it?
3. Is it working?
4. What else could you do?
5. Are you ready to make a plan?
Let's look at an example to see how this
works.
Jody, is a close friend who recently separated from
her spouse and has been complaining about it for weeks to you and anyone else
who will listen. She has been telling you her husband left her, she is stuck
with many bills and no support, and she is at her wit's end. She feels afraid,
alone and powerless.
Let's imagine you taking Jody for "A Walk in the
Park" over a coffee or lunch.
1.You take Jody first to the "What do you want?"
Bench.
You say: "Jody you are upset about this situation,
and I appreciate you feeling overwhelmed about it all. Tell me what you want out
of this situation for yourself now?"
Jody responds: "I want my husband back, I want help
with our debt because I can't carry it all on my own, and I want to stop feeling
so scared all the time."
You ask: "Which one is the most important to you
right now...the one you want to move towards dealing with
immediately?"
Jody says: "I would say I want to stop feeling
afraid all the time."
2.You take Jody next to the "What are you doing to
get it? Bench.
You ask: "Jody, what exactly have you been doing so
far to stop feeling afraid all the time?"
Jody responds: "Well, I have been calling him at his
mother's place every night. I have written him a letter begging him to come
home. I have asked his mother to help me get him back. I have asked my brother
and two sisters to talk with him. I even went to his workplace to see if I could
catch him at his lunch break to talk to him. I have also cleaned up the house
and got in his favorite foods in case he decides to drop by."
3.You take Jody next to the "Is it working?"
Bench.
You ask: "Jody, you obviously have done several
things to prevent you from feeling afraid. I want to ask a question. Think about
your answer carefully. Has calling him, writing him letters, asking his mother
or your brother and sisters to talk with him, or trying to talk to him yourself
or having his favorite food handy enabled you to not feel afraid?"
Jody: "Well, actually I think sometimes it is making
it worse because he is avoiding me and my family is getting frustrated with me
too. One of my sisters said I was better off with him gone, but I feel so
alone."
You say: "Jody, let me ask you this question another
way. The actions you took to reduce your fear, have they been
successful?
Jody: "Well when you say it that way and I think
about it, I have to say no they have not. In fact, they really increase my fear
sometimes."
4.You take Jody next to the "What else could you
do?" Bench.
You say: "Jody, these behaviors may have worked for
you in other situations, but you just said they are not working this time, it
that correct. (Jody nods) Then what else could you consider doing to take you
towards having less fear?"
Jody: "Well, I guess the opposite of being afraid is
being self-confident isn't it? So if I want to feel more self-confident I could
start doing things that give me a feeling of self-confidence like going out with
my girlfriends to the craft courses, or I could spend more time with my own
family who I know love me, or I could volunteer at the school where I would be
welcome and appreciated. And I could put in more overtime to give me more money
for the debts. Also, I could even go back to school part time, so I am better
prepared for a different future if he doesn't return. So, really there are many
things I can do to feel better."
5.You take Jody finally to the "Are you ready to
make a plan?" Bench.
You say: "Jody you have identified five new things
you could take to move towards feeling less fearful and more self-confidence in
your life. Which one do you think would start you on the road toward creating
the self-confidence you want, and which you would like to build into a plan of
action?
Jody: "I think I need to do them all, but the first
one would be to talk to my own family about what has happened. I am so
embarrassed, and yet I know they will be supportive and I need that right
away."
You say: "Jody, what specifically are you prepared
to do in terms of your family to reduce your fear and increase your
self-confidence? And specifically when, where, and how are you going to do it?
And who will it involve?"
Jody: "I will call my parents tonight about going
over for dinner on Sunday. My brother and sisters are usually there. I will tell
them all about my situation and ask them for their support regardless of whether
he comes back."
You say: "Jody, that sounds like a plan which will
move you towards more self-confidence and less fear in your life. To ensure it
is the best plan for you at this time, would you evaluate it in terms of your
commitment to doing it. On a scale of one to ten, with ten being the highest
commitment, how strongly are you committed to it?"
Jody: "You know, having someone to bounce my
situation off has given me a more objective perspective and challenged me to be
stronger and value myself more. I feel stronger and more able to deal with it
now. Also, I have learned this is probably just the start of me evolving myself.
I appreciate you not demeaning my situation or me. Thank you, this has been very
useful. So I am at definite ten."
You: "That's great Jody! Will you let me know how it
goes with your family? And, if you need to talk about it again just let me
know."
Jody: "I will do that. Thank you again!"
You may need to offer more assistance to Jody in the
days ahead as she struggles to get control of her life. However, the toughest
part for both you and Jody is over because she has started to take control of
her future again. In addition you have retained a valuable
relationship.
Dr. William Glasser, one of the last "Father's of
Modern Psychology", a world renowned psychiatrist, author, educator and speaker,
on whose ideas "A Walk in the Park" is based has often said, "Everyone is a
helper, we are all helping each other learn to appreciate our life as it is!"
"A Walk in the Park" provides the process to guide a
person, respectfully and decisively, from feeling out of control to being in
control of themselves and their life. It helps them appreciate, no matter how
bleak things seem, they can help themselves.
By being there guiding them through the park, you
assist them in uncovering the self confidence to make the effort. You are the
difference that makes a difference. By listening to them respectfully without
judgment, you honor them.
"A Walk in the Park" will work with anyone at any
time. This process is used widely throughout the world by thousands of the most
effective nonprofessional and professional helpers.
Chronic complainers are a blessing in disguise since
they provide an opportunity for two people to grow in ways they had not
imagined, gaining self appreciation in the process. "A Walk in the Park" takes a
person from ingratitude to gratitude - a blessed state of being.
by Steve Jobs – CEO of Apple Computer and Pixar Animation Studios
Steve Jobs delivered this commencement address to some 5,000 Stanford University graduates:
“I am honoured to be with you today at your commencement from one of the
finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth
be told, this is the closest I’ve ever gotten to a college graduation.
Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That’s it. No big
deal. Just three stories.
The First Story is About Connecting the Dots.
I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then
stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really
quit. So why did I drop out?
It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed
college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption.
She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so
everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and
his wife.
Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that
they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list,
got a call in the middle of the night asking: ‘We have an unexpected
baby boy; do you want him?’ They said: ‘Of course.’ My biological mother
later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and
that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign
the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my
parents promised that I would someday go to college.
And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college
that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class
parents’ savings were being spent on my college tuition.
After six months, I couldn’t see the value in it. I had no idea what I
wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me
figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had
saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it
would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back
it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I
could stop taking the required classes that didn’t interest me, and
begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.
It wasn’t all romantic. I didn’t have a dorm room, so I slept on the
floor in friends’ rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to
buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday
night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved
it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and
intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one
example:
Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy
instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every
label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed.
Because I had dropped out and didn’t have to take the normal classes,
I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I
learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of
space between different letter combinations, about what makes great
typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a
way that science can’t capture, and I found it fascinating.
None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life.
But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh
computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac.
It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never
dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never
had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows
just copied the Mac, it’s likely that no personal computer would have
them.
If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this
calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful
typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots
looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear
looking backwards ten years later.
Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only
connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will
somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something– your
gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me
down, and it has made all the difference in my life.
My Second Story is About Love and Loss.
I was lucky–I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I
started Apple in my parents’ garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and
in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a
$2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our
finest creation–the Macintosh–a year earlier, and I had just turned 30.
And then I got fired.
How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew
we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company
with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our
visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling
out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was
out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult
life was gone, and it was devastating.
I really didn’t know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had
let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down–that I had dropped the
baton as it was being passed to me.
I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for
screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought
about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn
on me–I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not
changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And
so I decided to start over.
Fired From Apple
I didn’t see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple
was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness
of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner
again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most
creative periods of my life.
During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another
company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would
become my wife. Pixar went on to create the world’s first computer
animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful
animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple
bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at
NeXT is at the heart of Apple’s current renaissance. And Laurene and I
have a wonderful family together.
I’m pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn’t been
fired from Apple. It was awful-tasting medicine, but I guess the patient
needed it.
Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith.
I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved
what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for
your work as it is for your lovers.
Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only
way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And
the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t
found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle.
As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And,
like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years
roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.
My Third Story is About Death.
When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: ‘If you live
each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be
right.’
It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I
have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: ‘If today
were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do
today?’ And whenever the answer has been ‘No’ for too many days in a
row, I know I need to change something.
Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve
ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost
everything–all external expectations, all pride, all fear of
embarrassment or failure–these things just fall away in the face of
death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are
going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you
have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to
follow your heart.
Diagnosed With Cancer
About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer.
I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on
my pancreas. I didn’t even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told
me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and
that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months.
My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is
doctor’s code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids
everything you thought you’d have the next 10 years to tell them in just
a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that
it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your
goodbyes.
I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a
biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach
and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few
cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me
that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started
crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer
that is curable with surgery.
I had the surgery and I’m fine now.
This was the closest I’ve been to facing death, and I hope it’s the
closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now
say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful
but purely intellectual concept:
No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want
to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No
one has ever escaped it.
And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single
best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old
to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too
long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away.
Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.
Don’t be trapped by dogma–which is living with the results of other
people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out
your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow
your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want
to become. Everything else is secondary.
When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole
Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was
created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park,
and he brought it to life with his poetic touch.
This was in the late 1960s, before personal computers and desktop
publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and Polaroid
cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before
Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools
and great notions.
Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth
Catalogue, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final
issue.
It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their
final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind
you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous.
Beneath it were the words: ‘Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.’ It was their
farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I
have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin
anew, I wish that for you.
Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. Thank you all very much.”
The Stanford (University) Report June 14, 2005
Feb 9, 2011
High self-esteem
or self confidence, is not something some lucky people are born with, a
lot of it lies in our upbringing, and how your self image have been
build up through life. If you want happiness, success and fulfillment
you need high self esteem. If you appreciate yourself, and look at
yourself as worthy of whatever you find important, you will
automatically have high self esteem, and a strong self image, which is
your conception of your beliefs about yourself.
In fact how you see yourself will always influence your thoughts,
your actions, your feelings and your behaviour. And all that put
together with your abilities and from that comes the results you produce
in your life.
So if you have low self esteem, you will have an inner image of
yourself as some sort of a failure or defeat, and you will see yourself
as not very worthy, and probably feel like you are a victim of
circumstance and bad luck.
And if you have high self esteem, your inner image will project
optimism in everything you do, it will be like seeing yourself as a
worthy person, and have a great self confidence. You will feel like you
have a purpose, and be positive in most, if not all of your actions.
People with high self esteem, are not beating themselves up when they
fail at something, they go right back to being optimistic, and see
what some might see as failure, as a success, much like Thomas Edison
described it when inventing the electric light bulb. “I don’t see myself
failing 3000 times with this, I am certain that it will work, and I am
3000 tries closer to success” Not quite accurately what he said, but I
think you get the point here.
From this we can also see that high self esteem people have a sense
of direction, and a feel for what they do as important. When things
don’t work out right for them, they usually stand back, and look
objectively at their results, and find what they can correct in order to
produce another result, as opposed to low self esteemed persons, who
often do the exact same thing to get the exact same results, and they
don’t have a clue why.
So, what is the secret to high self-esteem? Basically, it is
accepting the self, and then peeling off the layers of conditioning and
lies that have caused self esteem and self confidence to decrease and
be buried.
7 steps To Increase Your Self Esteem And Self Confidence
1. Accept where you are in life, and don’t keep beating up yourself when you fail at something.
2. Get at peace with your past, your weaknesses and your strengths.
3. Don’t take yourself so seriously, we all make mistakes, and it’s not the end of the world every time.
4. Work on loving yourself for what you are, we are all unique
persons, and we all have a worth in life. And try to understand that you
are here for a purpose.
5. Remember and cherish your successes, no matter how small they are,
it will help your mind learn that success is a part of you. Praise
yourself when you achieve something, it is your achievement, and
praising yourself for your success is quite the opposite of beating
yourself up for failing.
6. Visualize yourself with success and high self esteem, see the
person you would bee if you were a success from the outside, study
him/her, how they walk, breath, talk and so forth. And then try to be
one with that person in your mind, it will be hard to do at first, but
if you make this a daily assignment for yourself, it will get easier,
and it will work wonders for your self-esteem and self confidence.
7. Finally, set goals for yourself, plan your successes, and reward
yourself, at least emotionally by praising yourself whenever you achieve
some sort of a goal, make it small achievable goals to begin with, it
is a great confidence booster to achieve a goal, no matter how small it
may seem to others, this is your life, go out and get it.
Do these 7 steps regularly, take action, and you will be well on your
way to more self esteem and self confidence, put your all in it, and
take back the life you deserve.
